If you want to make connections with someone powerful, you must be willing to give. If you only invite them to a meal, how can you establish a relationship with a powerful person? If you want to connect with someone influential but don't want to give up your own advantages, this contradictory situation makes it impossible to build a genuine relationship. Ordinary people should not think about upward socializing because all circles are evenly matched; the essence of socializing is value exchange. Unilaterally trying to climb up is like kowtowing, and others won't look up to you. The circle of security guards is usually just security guards, teachers' circles are usually teachers, businesspeople's circles are usually businesspeople, and farmers' circles are usually farmers. So don't fool yourself into thinking you can make connections with the powerful. Don't think about upward socializing; if you lack the ability to recognize others, it's useless. Focus on being your best self and connecting with people who are on the same wavelength—this is the wise way to socialize.