How to Get Through a Downturn

1. Don’t sell your misery and complain to people you know. Human nature is drawn to strength. Vent your emotions to a “tree hole,” but in public you must hold yourself together and maintain your dignity.
2. During a low point, don’t rush to stage a comeback and do a turnaround. Slow down is actually fast. Use this time to conserve your energy, shore up your weak spots, and learn more.
3. Don’t stay cooped up in your room and spiral into overthinking. Once many things have happened, they’re just happened—don’t keep picking fights with yourself and making it harder.
4. Calmly accept the past that has already happened. Step away from inner overthinking in time, and put your energy into things that help you become better.
5. You don’t need to deliberately build a persona. Keep a steady, calm, and actively positive state—good times will naturally attract good resources.
6. If your emotions are going to break, release them quietly somewhere no one is around. Don’t go head-to-head with your emotions, and don’t keep finding people just to complain again and again.
7. A low point is actually the perfect time to screen the people around you. Remember those who helped you; as for everyone else, don’t waste your energy on them.
8. Make yourself the core of everything. Take good care of your life and work, listen to your own inner voice, and focus on your own energy—then you’ll keep getting stronger and stronger.
9. Don’t get involved in other people’s business. Don’t play the savior. Take care of yourself first; if others don’t ask, don’t give advice out of nowhere.
10. You must talk less. Talking a lot is especially draining on your energy. Even with people close to you, you still need to keep a strong sense of boundaries.
11. Don’t treat yourself as if you matter too much, but you must treat the things you do as matters that count. If you get the job done well, people will naturally look up to you.
12. Don’t waste time on things that have nothing to do with you. Focus on your own growth—your heart will become steadier and you’ll gain more and more strength.
13. Use all your effort to save yourself. Don’t watch, listen to, or get involved in things that don’t concern you—develop the habit of avoiding clumping together and cutting down on idle chatting.
14. Don’t wait for others to love you and treat you well. Adults should learn to take care of themselves; do more things that help you become more beautiful.
15. In a low point, whatever you say may feel pale and powerless. It’s better to settle your mind and quietly improve yourself—once you become excellent, you’ll naturally get out of the low.