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Eight essentials of self-cultivation: understanding them can save ten years of detours.

Has there ever been a case in history where someone suddenly becomes a big figure for no apparent reason? Zhang Bishi, the founder of Changyu Cabernet, is definitely a top example. A poor kid from Guangdong, unable to support a family even after marriage, he grit his teeth and "sold" himself to work in Southeast Asia. After some twists and turns, he first worked as a young clerk in a paper shop. One day, a customer came in, bought some items, and asked to store a box to pick up later, but the person never showed up again.

You hang out with leftover men and women, at first you don't understand, but after a while you think not getting married is actually pretty good;
You hang out with someone who is a mistress, at first you find her disgusting and think she's dirty, but over time you get used to it, and you might even understand her difficulties, and possibly walk down that path yourself;
You hang out with lazy, procrastinating people who have no goals, and you lose your ambition and passion for doing things, wasting days, lying flat, and idling away your life.

Why can't ordinary people succeed in business? It's not because they aren't working hard enough, but because they chose the wrong business model from day one. Do you also think that as long as the product is good enough and the service is attentive enough, the business will definitely succeed? But reality often hits hard. Some work tirelessly from dawn to dusk for several years, exhausted to the point of collapse, only to eventually close down. Others don't seem to work as hard, yet their business keeps growing, opening several branches.

Many people don't understand why highly educated individuals can't earn more than local bosses with only elementary or middle school education. The reason for the skepticism is that they only possess knowledge in other fields and have no understanding of business knowledge and experience. High-cognition poor people simply don't understand business knowledge, entrepreneurial methodologies, or the skills, mindset, and thinking required for entrepreneurship.

As long as others keep urging you to make a decision, it's not a good sign. No one will pressure you without reason. The reason he's anxious is because he's afraid you'll think too much and see the problem. So, the more he urges you, the more you should slow down. The longer you delay, the more flaws you'll reveal; the longer you stay calm, the clearer the truth becomes.

If you are in a "cold" office environment where everyone is indifferent and doing their own thing, congratulations, this might be the most comfortable and healthy environment.

Before we officially begin, you must first understand five very important things: (Many people confuse "The Art of War" and "36 Stratagems," but they are fundamentally different!) 1️⃣ "The Art of War" and "36 Stratagems" are two separate books. "The Art of War" discusses *Dao*: principles, strategy, underlying logic. "36 Stratagems" focuses on *techniques*: methods, tactics, military deception. The fundamental differences are huge, so don't mix them up anymore!

No matter who you're in conflict with, usually a few words are enough to get the point across. Sometimes, a few words aren't enough to explain, and maybe you just can't make him understand. There's no need to waste words. Everyone can only think based on their level of understanding. Never try to argue with someone whose cognition is on a different level, or else you're committing slow self-destruction!

Most people find that after turning thirty, they gradually realize that the little entanglements between the sexes are really not that interesting. After experiencing love and seeing through people's hearts, those instinct-driven flirtations and ambiguities become so dull that they can't be bothered to deal with them. Whether it's selfish scheming behind the scenes or deliberate disguises cloaked in a glamorous exterior, plus the insignificant sense of novelty, all of it is unnecessary energy expenditure that can't spark any interest.

Who you're with really makes a difference. Some people are like chargers; a few words from them can revive you completely. Others are like juicers; just one sentence from them can make you feel like you've lost several days of life. Being with people who are on the same wavelength makes even silence comfortable. You don't have to deliberately find topics or pretend to be interested. They understand your hesitation to speak and can catch your wild ideas. Truly like-minded people make even nonsense sound sweet.

The stronger the possessiveness, the greater the backlash of desire against you! Everything in the world does not belong to me; I originally come empty-handed. To let go of the idea of "possessing," I must not cling to external things. Everything in the world, I can only use and experience; they are all tools for me to experience life. The more I want to possess, the more I will feel confused, anxious, irrational, mentally unstable, emotionally chaotic, suffering, crazy, and physically ill after "not getting what I want" and "losing."

The reason why people are not successful is because everyone has blind spots and cannot see themselves clearly. It's like when we are looking for something and search back and forth without finding it, only to realize that it has been right in front of us all along — this is a visual blind spot. Why do many people fail to find their ideal job? Why do they always fall into negativity and confusion? Because they are trapped in their own "cognitive blind spots," seeing only traces of failure but unable to recognize their strengths and shining points.

Anyone who holds you back should be kicked out, or neither of you will get very far. For example, those around you who drink at midnight, enjoy gambling, like to chat idly, hate going to work, constantly complain, speak harshly, have a dull mind, chaotic thinking, or try to be clever. These are the people you should isolate yourself from. Never make friends with them randomly.

Never let your desires exceed what you earn! For example, if your monthly income is only 10,000, but you take out loans to buy a 1 million car and a 2 million house, you become a slave to your house and car, suffering every day from mortgage and car loan payments. Because your earning ability doesn't match your level of enjoyment.

Who you are with can ignite your desire to make money, so that person is boosting your wealth.
Who you are with can ignite your desire to dress up yourself, so that person is boosting your luck.
Who you are with, eating well, sleeping well, feeling happier, and your life improving, that person is boosting you.
Who you are with, experiencing emotional instability, lacking a sense of security, and being indecisive, that person is draining you.

Parents with high awareness are all cultivating their children's wolf spirit. In this society, sheep cannot survive. Why? Because the world has changed, and outstanding sheep will inevitably be eliminated! 1 The Price of Obedience From a young age, we are taught to be obedient. Listen to parents, listen to teachers, listen to leaders. But have you ever thought about what the essence of obedience is? It is compliance training.

The fastest way for a company to go bankrupt is definitely not having no business, but rather hiring the first person when there is business. If you can understand my upcoming sharing, share it with your family or friends who are entrepreneurs. At least it can save them 5 years of detours and save tens of thousands of dollars in unnecessary expenses.

If you knew these tips earlier, understood them sooner, and practiced them sooner, you could prevent losing a lot of money to scams: (Sharing valuable insights) 1. Advice on "lending money to others": Never lend money to strangers, no matter what. This includes friends, relatives, classmates, brothers, sisters, boyfriends, or girlfriends you don't know well. Some people even lend thousands, tens of thousands, or hundreds of thousands of dollars to friends of friends, old classmates, hometown acquaintances, or colleagues.